The answer is simple. The very things in the office that make management strategies work — adequate structure and support, stimulation and ADD-friendly activities and environments — are typically missing at home.
Most places provide built-in structure: a time to arrive, a break for lunch, a time to leave. Daytime meetings, memos, and routines provide the structure of a defined set of tasks.
At home there is little or no external structure, and often little support. Many with ADD report feeling ineffective at home —easily distracted from tasks that remain half-finished; fatigued after a day’s work in which lack of structure results in good intentions rarely fulfilled. Many women with ADD who functioned well in the workplace feel much less effective at home raising children full time.
The support of co-workers can be critical to success. It’s helpful to be with other people with whom we can brainstorm, problem-solve, and mutually remind. Accountability helps too. When the boss asks for a report at a certain time, we’re much more likely to complete it than if the assignment were open-ended.
ADD people work best when we’re engaged in stimulating, interesting activities. While certainly not all tasks at work are stimulating and interesting, we have more opportunity to choose a career direction that stimulates. It’s hard to find stimulation in the activities required to manage a household.
ADD-friendly activities are interesting, stimulating, and allow us to work from our areas of strength. Smart career choices allow for just that — to work on tasks aligned with our strengths on topics of interest and importance. ADD-unfriendly activities are detail-oriented, mundane, routine, repetitive, and provide little opportunity for creativity or growth. While the world of work contains some mundane activities, most household chores — laundry, dishes, mopping, vacuuming, dusting, etc. — are ADD-unfriendly because they are unstimulating and uninteresting. Home executive duties — bill-paying, making and keeping appointments, setting schedules for others, and maintaining financial records — are ADD-unfriendly by virtue of their demands for planning and attention to detail.
An ADD-friendly environment has adequate light and space, temperature control, comfortable, ergonomically correct furniture, an ordered and visually appealing room, and a minimum of distractions. All contribute to improved functioning for those with ADD. Some workplace environments are not ADD-friendly; they’re cluttered, noisy, crowded, with flickering fluorescent lighting, ringing phones, and frequent interruptions. However, many are ADD-friendly or can be modified to be so.
At home, however, the structure and organization of your environment rely entirely on you. Distractions abound — whether it’s the distraction from one task by the thought of another (stopping in the middle of the laundry to finish the dishes) or the distractions of children, ringing phones, and ringing doorbells.
When all of these things are considered — structure, support, stimulation, ADD-friendly activities, and an ADD-friendly environment — it’s no mystery why we have more difficulty functioning as well at home as we can in the workplace. The good news is that there are many ways to make your home environment more ADD-friendly, and your home maintenance tasks more ADD-friendly. Many of those strategies are outlined in the book I co-wrote with Judith Kohlberg, ADD-friendly Ways to Organize Your Life.