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Motivating Kids

How to teach self-discipline.

 

Does your child struggle to get through one chapter of a textbook, but can sit down and read a whole comic book?

It seems paradoxical that ADHD children can do things that interest them but can’t stick with other things, like homework. Such behavior may suggest that the child is being willfully disobedient, or that a lack of discipline and poor motivation are the problems.

But this behavior is neither willful nor the result of poor parenting.

ADHD is not just a disorder of attention, excess activity, or poor impulse control, though these features usually are the most conspicuous. Underneath lurks a more profound disorder in mental mechanisms that give humans the capacity for self-regulation.

ADHD disrupts a person’s ability to manage their own behavior and act with future consequences in mind. That’s why ADHD kids are at their worst when tasks must be done that have no immediate payoff or reinforcement, but are necessary because the future outcome is important.

Underlying our capacity for self-regulation is self-motivation — that intrinsic drive to achieve our goals, even in the face of boredom or adversity. Goal-directed, future-oriented behavior demands that we be able to motivate ourselves internally, which is often described as willpower, self-discipline, ambition, persistence, determination or drive. ADHD disrupts this mental mechanism, leaving those with the disorder “low on fuel” in motivating behavior toward future rewards.

If a task in itself provides motivation (such as videogames, comic books, or TV) they have little or no problem sticking with it — but that’s because the activity contains its own rewards. Give these kids a task where there is no external reinforcement or payoff, and their persistence falls apart. They can’t sustain attention, skip from one uncompleted activity to another, and get bored very quickly and easily.

Therefore, to help a child with ADHD complete work when there is little immediate reward or interest in the task, adults must establish artificial rewards to help sustain their motivation. That’s why token systems, chip programs, or other external rewards help ADHD kids persist. Without these rewards, ADHD kids cannot themselves create the intrinsic willpower they need to stick with the task.

2 Comments:

  • Posted by z200866 - Jan 17 2008 @ 12:07 PM
    Motivation
    I am in a 8+year relationship with a man who clearly has some form of ADD but has never received any help for it and he has a 15year old daughter that also has ADD and is suppose to be taking meds on a daily basis. The big problem that I've noticed is lack of structure and discipline that my fiance has toward his daughter. She pretty much hangs out in her room when not in school and either plays XBox 360 24 x 7 or watches TV. I know this is very damaging in many ways to her, but am helpless to intervene as my fiance only gets very defensive and angry if anything is said about the situation. He actually encourages his daughter with the games/tv as he seems to be very addicted to tv himself. Is there any hope? I don't see much of a future for 15year old as she is very unmotivated, seems to have no clue about life and doesnt' seem to care. Thanks
  • Posted by catherine alexander - Apr 27 2007 @ 11:13 PM
    motivation
    I have tried all these things to motivate my stepson to do his work and the one chore I give him of folding his sheets. Nothing works! Even his teacher has tried things and they don't work with him.I'm open for anything with this hard core kid.He refuses to do any work,class or home work.At 14 he should be doing some things.He gets extremely angry when we try to get him to do his work. He is a violent kid, heavily medicated because of it.I offer to take him out to get ice cream if he folds his sheets.He wets every night so I wash and he folds and makes his bed. It's like pulling teeth!He's a smart boy when it comes to tv,videos,movies.
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